About Me

Ali Lopez

When I was little, my two greatest dreams were to perform and to be become a mother. Fast forward to today and I can gratefully say I’ve enjoyed a varied career within the Performing Arts and I’m a passionate mother of two young daughters.


Hi, I’m Alexandra (Ali) Lopez, Performing Artist, Mentor, Mother, and Wife, and over the past two decades I’ve worked as a Dancer, Singer, Actor, and Voice-Artist.


I offer the following glimpses into my background, beliefs, and motivations, to help you get a feel for the community I am creating and a sense of the value I might bring to you in the role of mentor.

Performing: All the world’s a stage

To me there is no greater feeling than performing. Whether that be on stage, in a recording studio or down the barrel of a camera.

There is magic to be found for performers in these places. I truly believe it is the closest I come to flying. So yes, I can say that my big dreams have come true and I will always be so grateful for that and the many people who helped me along the way.

However, the journey to here has been one of (sorry to cliché all over you) blood, sweat and many, many tears.

The hard yards: A mindset for longevity

I have always taken unconventional paths.

When the crowd was going one way, you could always find me walking in the opposite direction.

This started when I was 14. I remember sitting my parents down one night and telling them something along the lines of, “there is a performing arts college in Adelaide (we lived an hour away) and I really need to start next year.” They agreed.

Not a Christmas goes by where I don’t thank my parents for listening to their very headstrong and passionate teenager.

Mainstream high school really wasn’t my jam. The best thing there for me was meeting my future husband.

I was a budding ballerina who wanted nothing more than to dance all day. I got all that and more in my 3-year course which saw me flip flop what my peers at high school were doing.

I danced all day and did my schooling by correspondence at night.

I loved it so much and felt I had “come home”, even though it meant travelling two hours by train every day, five to six days a week, for three years.

If you’re on a journey in the Performing Arts, too, you’ll probably recognise that moment, like I did, when young me embraced the birthing of my dedication, drive, and commitment to the arts. It was still a tough grind but I woke up every day, grateful for what I was doing.

Early career: Welcome to the ups and downs of life!

As is common in the arts, I watched my work morph over time from one discipline to another; from dancer to singer, to actor, and now voice artist.

I used to think I was a jack of all and a master of none but I realised recently I was always going to do what I’ve done and it has served and enriched my work so much.

I think the art forms I’ve become involved in all require similar things, and each one lends value to the other. For example, I have had experiences in the studio doing a voice over gig where I have got the rhythm of a script from a tap class I recently did. I love those breakthroughs!!!

That was quite an insight because there are many siloes in the arts sector, placing barriers between various artforms that make us all poorer. I wish this was not the case.

Throughout my career I have had my fair share of failures and hard lessons. When I reflect on them though, I can see how they really helped shape the performer and person I am today.

I am grateful for their lasting lessons.

Nothing sucks more than a missed opportunity, but let’s face it, that kinda comes with the territory as a performer!

I think there is power in reframing how we perceive the Yes’s and the No’s, and I have more to share about that later.

Fatigue, stress, and our reliance on our physical wellbeing

My life and career have been affected by what I call, the 3 A’s; Adrenal Fatigue, Anxiety, and Auto-Immune. Let’s look at them all briefly because most performers (especially parents who are performers), will run afoul of at least one of them in their careers.

Adrenal Fatigue happened twice in the way of two complete crashes to my system. I had absolutely no concept in my twenties of any kind of harmony in my life. I was on a mission to hone my craft and this for me meant also simultaneously having very little down time, social life and balance.

My marriage, friendships and health suffered as a result and I plummeted into the ground and had to build my health back up again … slowly.

I thought my lesson was learnt after that first crash, but it turns out my evil ways still had me by the tail and once again I plummeted hard.

Although painful (and time consuming), these times taught me the crucial importance of balance.

We all need to prioritise rest and nourishment for our souls, more so than ever before. I will always be grateful to my divine husband who taught me the art of pure relaxation.

Sadly, I didn’t know how to actually relax until in my twenties.

Anxiety was ever present in my life, even in my early days of training. I believe it helped the Adrenal Fatigue to really take hold, and it has taken more than a decade of therapy with a trusted therapist to unpack my thought processes and help turn them into ones that serve rather than hinder me.

I cannot “stress” enough, how important it is to take the signs and symptoms of anxiety seriously. We don’t have to remain locked into its confines. We can redefine our understandings of and responses to anxiety, and emerge from its grip.

Auto-Immune issues arose after my second pregnancy, when I found myself consumed by stressful events of my past (doesn’t birth have a way of shining a light on your past). This stress resulted in crazily high inflammation in my body.

My second daughter was very young, I was very unwell, and I nearly shit my pants when my doctor said, “Ali, take your pick of auto-immune disorders you would prefer, because keeping this level of inflammation in your system will see you with one in no time”.

I cried an ocean. I was full of fear. Then I dried my eyes, rolled up my sleeves and learnt all I could about reducing inflammation. I got better, I felt better, my mind strengthened and finally I felt like the old Ali again. But for a while there, things were bad. At my lowest point I actually had the thought that this would all be easier if I wasn’t here anymore.

Throughout these health hurdles I learned so much. When you are brought to your knees by anything, the audition trail, a health issue, parenting, a relationship, unresolved issues from your past, right there on your knees is where you have the opportunity for reflection. After all, let’s face it, it takes a long time to stand!

These hardships are meant to make us think and hopefully learn where we fell down and ultimately help us grow.

Led by intuition

It took me a long time to realise I am a highly sensitive person.

I believed for most of my life that the traits I possess due to this sensitivity, were ailments.

I was so pleased to learn they were not only the making of me, but they were actually my superpowers.

I now honour what I need to do to be able to be there for my family and myself in the most grounded way.

As a highly sensitive person I learned that my gut instinct has always been my greatest teacher and these days it is always the first place I tap into for guidance.

I have learned what true resilience and courage look like. I’ve read about it in books, thought I would love to possess it, but it was only when I was on my knees that I got a chance to execute it.

I have learned that time is my most precious commodity. I am very aware of how I spend my time.

We live in a world now that screams information at us 24/7. We can be always “on” if we choose to. People can contact us day and night thanks to technology. I have found my power in the simplest act of choosing when those availability times will be.

My life now has harmony in it. I understand the importance, especially in motherhood, of self-care. I have seen what happens without it and that is not a pretty sight.

Some final questions

As you ponder whether or not to reach out to me or join our community, here are a few questions to read. Perhaps one or more of them might resonate deeply with you.

After having children, has your career taken a backseat and you are longing for that creative fix that makes you “you”?

Are you about to enter motherhood and wondering how your career as a performer will evolve after bubs?

Are you currently working within the performing arts and are “lonely AF” just like I was?

Are you searching for like-minded mothers who you can share the highs and lows of motherhood AND performing alike?

Did bringing children into the world also bring into your heart unresolved issues from past experiences, like failures, rejections that are keeping you from moving forward?

Are you desperately searching for the manual that doesn’t exist on “juggling life as a performer and mother” and haven’t found it yet?

Have you decided that being a WAHM (work at home mum) is for you and aligns with what you want for your children and yourself, but have no clue how to do this with your performing work?

Have you been searching for a community of like-minded performing mothers who truly understand that your job is actually a job and not some fun hobby you do on weekends?

If any of these questions spoke to you, let’s chat about how I might be able to help you answer them.